The Best Thing That Helped Me Emotionally Heal After Having An Abortion!

So you've had an abortion? Be it days ago, weeks ago, or years ago? For countless women having an abortion they can move on with their lives, but chances are if you're reading this then you're not one of those women. I'm not saying women who don't have any aftereffects are the lucky ones, but for women who have issues from an abortion, it's very well likely that at a soul level you have chosen an abortion as a way to learn your soul lessons.

Whoa!!!!! That was a drop down to another level pretty fast. If you had your way you would be over it, and not suffering the ongoing feelings of guilt, anxiety, depression, and countless other post traumatic ways in which the stress impacts itself. So who cares if there are soul lessons when you just want to be over it and not feeling all the lingering feelings that keep hanging around?

You may have tried countless therapies to move on, or you might be too far gone to even feel them and are suffering depression. It might be that you don't realise that it's the abortion you had that is the root of all these symptoms and maladies. Chances are if you're reading this you suspect it might be. Healing at a soul level is a sure fire way to get to the bottom of the pain and begin to process and accept that you had an abortion and begin to make peace with it.

The one thing that helped me start the process and move on was to connect with the soul of my baby, I was able to do this myself via a meditation, and you can do this too. This is not to drag up more pain, and this is not avoiding taking responsibility, but this is to take in the whole picture, not just the tip of the iceberg which are your presenting symptoms. This is not a way to hang onto your baby but to begin to let go and help you move on.

Obstacles to Emotionally Healing After an Abortion!

For many women having had an abortion, however long ago it was, is something they felt they weren't able to share. It's a secret sorrow. There are many internal and external obstacles to working through this secret sorrow in order to move on and grieve it.

Internal obstacles

Often times an abortion is the hardest thing a woman has ever had to go through in her life. And because of that the feelings are sometimes too hard to bear. They become suppressed. But out of sight is not out of mind. A woman may also tell herself that she wanted the abortion so there's no point crying over split milk. And because she made the decision, it was her choice, why cry over it. Or she may decide that she can't move forward because she made the decision so she has to suffer. For how ever many years it takes. That she has no right to feel ok. But that can then become a way of life.

Denial can be a very strong factor for a lot of women. Staying in denial for years, not knowing that there is a process to go through in terms of healing the grief. But the feelings may be too hard to face in order to come out of denial. Some women punish themselves somehow making up the other side of karma themselves, as if they need to be punished so if they do it themselves then perhaps "God" wont punish them in other ways.

External Obstacles

Grief shared makes it easier to bear. When other acknowledge our grief it validates our feelings, this is why we have funerals. We don't feel alone. But most people think an abortion is a relief, not something to be grieved, and because it's a woman's choice then it's seen as an event that happened and it's over. End of story. Or if it's shared with family and friends who aren't anti-abortion, then they are told that it wasn't a baby, just cells, that they made the only choice they could make under the circumstances, all of which don't seem to even touch on the grief that's felt.

There is no social norm around abortion as there is around death. There are no special cards or flowers. There is no ceremony. As a society we still can't decide if Abortion is murder or if it's just the extraction of a few cells. But for women who have had an abortion it in no way give permission or lifts the lid to deal with the underlying grief.